“Well, the good news is – it’s triplets!”
Not the sentence I was expecting to hear from a doctor I’d never seen before.
The day I learned my husband and I were expecting spontaneous triplets was one of the most memorable days of my life. I had a deep desire to birth any babies we were blessed with – naturally. I had a midwife, we were planning a home birth. I wanted to breastfeed.
But…three babies??
At the time I knew no one else who had triplets – lots of twins, but no triplets. And things just changed with a third baby in there (for instance, I had three babies and….well, not nearly enough boobs!).
And then.
My God-given, powerful maternal instinct kicked in, and I said, “I’m gonna do this!” We spent the next weeks and months working towards a natural, vaginal delivery. I researched and discussed with my chiro my options, went through all the potential challenges and plans with my OB team.
God had other plans, though, and my water broke at 32 weeks and 3 days (past term for triplets!) and less than 18 hours later, my three breech babies were born via c-section. It was a beautiful day – memories piercing my heart for decades to come. I watched each of my 3 lb, 12 or 13 oz babies being lifted from my body via mirror. Surreal. Breathtaking.
The Challenges I Faced with Breastfeeding Triplets
NICU Days
They spent 28-30 days in the NICU as “feeders and growers.” During that time, I battled to get my supply up. You see, in all the craziness of an unexpected delivery, delivering three babies and trying to get my post-op body to spend time with my brand new babies…I missed the critical window for telling my body, “Yep, you delivered three babies! Now, make milk for them!!!”
Add to that, my sweet babes were born before they learned the “suck, swallow, breathe” coordination in the womb. So they were being fed my milk and formula by a tube that went to their stomach. Then we taught them how to take from a bottle.
Initially, I had hoped to breastfeed two and pump for the third, rotating who was bottle-fed. But, once they were born I realized I should be able to breastfeed all three. So I read books. And websites. And blogs. I found online communities of triplet mamas. I talked with several different lactation consultants. I took herbs and medication. I drank gallons of water. I pumped around the clock.
Turning Bottle-fed Triplets into Breastfeeding Triplets
After the shock of bringing three babies home from the hospital (nearly 33 weeks didn’t prepare me for what that would be like!), I quickly realized teaching three babies to breastfeed was a monumental task. On top of getting my supply up.
After more and more research and conversations with my LC, and around two and a half months, I began working with my son to breastfeed. A week or so later, one of the girls. One feeding looked like this:
- Attempt tandem feed. If it didn’t work, feed one at a time.
- Top off with bottles.
- Bottle-feed the third.
- Pump.
- Start over in about an hour and a half. All day and night.
My third refused the breast for weeks. I cried. A lot. I tried positions and supplementing before, supplementing after. I tried a supplemental nursing system, a nursing shield. I tried pumping while breastfeeding her. I tried nursing her first, last, with a sibling, without. Refusal. Rejection.
My heart was so defeated.
Then I got in the bath tub with her. And there, she nursed. She nursed with the warm water gently surrounding her, feeling my heartbeat matching hers in that thrilling moment as I fed my daughter. My heart soared and I cried with joy and thankfulness.
Breastfeeding Triplets – 1, 2, 3 Babies
It wasn’t long after this moment that I had the second most memorable day in our breastfeeding journey.
One afternoon, one of the girls woke and I brought her into bed with me. I nursed her. Soon after, her sister and brother woke and I fed them. What??!! I fed all three babies and everyone was happy! No bottles were needed!
My body worked.
The demand was there and my body created the supply. From that moment on, I realized I could do this thing.
A Glorious Journey – My Journey
The road was the most difficult one I had ever walked. I was now making decisions that affected three tiny people – my children!
- Do I drop a bottle now? Not yet?
- Are they gaining enough? Did everyone have enough wet diapers?
- Was that a “hungry” sign or are they just digging their hands these days?
- Should I drink more water? Pump more? Eat more?
- Can I start weaning off the supplements? The medication? What would it look like for my supply to tank?
- How do I know if they really got enough?
Every day I fought against fear and fought to trust that God was causing my body to work the way He designed it to. I had to choose to walk in what I knew and make adjustments with what I learned.
My breastfeeding journey didn’t look like what I thought it would. At all! In many ways, it’s far more glorious than I ever dreamed it could be. And in other ways I fell short:
In the post-whirlwind of having three babies, I can clearly see the things we missed and what we could have done differently. But you know what? I was doing the best I could and I’m learning to be ok with that.
These days, at two and a half, we’re working on different things – like how to slowly wean. Yep, these beautiful babies are still nursing! We just weaned to one feeding when we all wake up in the morning. It’s one of my favorite times of the day – especially as I know those days are coming to a close. I hope to let them wean on their own at this point.
We’ve enjoyed a long, crazy, beautiful, fantastic journey. I couldn’t be happier.
Did your breastfeeding relationship include challenges? How did you overcome those?
Jennifer Fountain is the founder of Growing Up Triplets and is a contributor to other blogs, including Breastfeeding Place and Modern Alternative Mama. She writes about raising and breastfeeding their 2½ year old triplets, taking the family back to living simply, and endeavoring to honor God in the midst of it all. She will be releasing her first book soon – on breastfeeding multiples. Jennifer has been married to her hubby, David, for four years and is madly in love with him! You can follow Jennifer and the three peas on Google+, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and their blog.
Christina says
Good for you! Its amazing what our bodies can do. Thank you for sharing your journey. And congratulations on your three beautiful children. Good bless. Such an inspiration.
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Thank you, Christina! 🙂
Meredith says
AMAZING! Major kudos to you!!!
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Thanks, Meredith! 🙂 I am so grateful!!!
Hannah says
I am expecting triplets this spring, babies #4-6. I BF my three girls and know what challenges I encountered feeding one at a time and sometimes tandem. And then I imagine some of those same challenges 3x over and I cry. But the same tears remember those awesome moments, the quiet conversation in the night with a baby, the first smile that is given as the baby suckles. Those moments will also occur 3x over. Thank you for sharing!
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Hannah! Congratulations! 🙂 And you are so right! There will be many tears – over both the good and the challenging. And it is definitely 3x the snuggles, smiles, hugs and love. 🙂
PLEASE connect with me! 🙂
meggin says
I enjoyed reading this so much! And my hat is off to you. I gave birth to twin girls, determined to breastfeed. I struggled in the beginning breastfeeding my singletons, but was determined to give it my best for my little girls. Initially I did not have enough milk to feed them both, but through many prayers (and tears) and faith that I could eventually get them to an entire diet of breast milk without supplementing, we did it. My mom & husband backed me 100%, and that made a huge difference even though others were telling me to give up. And I am so glad I was able to nurse them! One of the twins weaned herself at about 11 months, and her sister nursed for a while longer. I think determination is key to success. I really appreciate you sharing your story!
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Meggin, wow, thank you for sharing your story! Breastfeeding any number of children can be difficult. What a gift you gave your children!!! <3
gem says
Wow…i cannot imagine breastfeeding triplets! Bfing is close to my heart and a trigger subject. My first had latch issues and my own breasts barely produced so he began to notgain…I had to supplement. Had to…as I had tried teas, massage, diet, pumping, meditation, prayer to no avail. I hated having to supplement but loved to see he was thriving. And I refused to give up bfing no matter how little actually happened. With my second, the months of struggle, horror, hatred and regret were…gone! He bfs like a pro. And now….we as a family are going paleo due to health issues inc allergies and my oldest, alway a slight and picky eater, will struggle the most…but I can’t wait to see his health improve.
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Gem, it is SO difficult to find something like this beyond your control, isn’t it? If I’m reading your comment correctly it sounded like you bf and supplemented your first for a while – and I love that mentality! It doesn’t have to be all or nothing! What a gift you gave your son – to continue bfing AND making bottles (which I always say is the hardest ;). Great job, mama!!! 🙂
Kimberly says
I loved this story. I’m so proud that you stuck with it! I’m a huge breastfeeding advocate, but I would have probably given up. Have fun with those babies!
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Thank you so much, Kimberly! 🙂 I know part of my determination stemmed from the fact that they desperately needed the nutrients. And once we got into a rhythm, I kept thinking…WHY would I stop???? 😀
Ericka says
You’re a role model for me! I’m pregnant with triplets, due this summer. Your story and success was uplifting. I’m determine to bf my babies as I did with my other 3 singletons. It’s amazing how discouraging people are when I say that I will fb my triplets. Are you willing to mentor me or help trouble shoot if I run into any bf issues?
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
Ericka, congratulations!!!! PLEASE connect with me! I would love to walk with you on your journey!! <3
Jennifer Fountain @GrowingUpTriplets.com says
My book on breastfeeding multiples is due out soon, too! That should come in handy. 😀
Christy says
Hi, we to have conceived triplets, we are the 1 in 8100 statistic of conceiving naturally and it has been a roller coaster 🙂 With each kick I can now feel a greater roller coaster of growing love I could ever imagine from that first moment 🙂 We have 3 children at present, 2 girls who I birthed and BF and our son who we adopted (we foster children and he came to us as a great gift right from the hospital 🙂 )
I to have the want and desire to breast feed all three of our GIRLS! when they make their entrance into this world. We are not due until October 30th so I am aiming for September 25th or later making us 35 wks. What do I need to do to make sure my supply is there when they are born? Herbs I could take before hand? Things to do? Should I pump directly after delivery? any information would be so greatly appreciated! I am over whelmed by your accomplishment and so wish to accomplish the same thing with our babies 🙂 Thank you